Etiquette of Gender Relations in Islam: A Living Quran Analysis of Contemporary Practices
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https://doi.org/10.33511/alfanar.v9n1.64-77Keywords:
Islamic etiquette, gender interaction, men and women, living QuranAbstract
The etiquette of social interaction between men and women in Islam constitutes a fundamental aspect of religious teachings aimed at preserving dignity, moral purity, and social harmony. This article is written to examine Quranic and Prophetic principles governing gender relations and their relevance for contemporary youth in educational, professional, and social contexts. Employing a qualitative approach with the Living Quran method, the study explores how Quranic values are embodied in daily practices through observation, interviews, and thematic analysis. Findings reveal that while Islam does not prohibit male–female interaction absolutely, such relations must be conducted within ethical boundaries, including the prohibition of physical contact between non-mahram individuals, the obligation to lower the gaze, modest dress, and respectful communication. The analysis highlights the adaptation of Quranic values among youth, reflected in their awareness of maintaining religious boundaries and adopting Islamic dress codes. The implications underscore the necessity of integrating Quranic ethics into character education, moral development programs, and Islamic-based social policies to foster environments that are dignified, harmonious, and pleasing to Allah SWT.
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