Rekonstruksi Makna Faẓfar Bi Dhāt Al-Dīn Melalui Teori Mubādalah di Dusun Dengok Paciran Lamongan

Abstract

Everyone has their own criteria when it comes to choose a life partner. In the book of Sunan Al-Darimi index number 2216 the Prophet mentions four good criteria used as a reference, namely religion, appearance, wealth, and lineage. Problems arise when the hadith is only understood textually, when men have the authority to choose a partner while women do not. So, it will be interesting if the intent of the hadith is examined using the Mubādalah theory on this case. This study uses a qualitative method by using the book of Sunan al-Dārimī as the main source. The research becomes even more interesting because it was complemented by case studies of a number of people from the hamlet of Dengok, Lamongan who still hold the tradition of women applying to men first. The results of this study indicate that the hadith in the book of Sunan al-Dārimī index number 2216 is valid and can be used as evidence. A number of people in the hamlet of Dengok Lamongan practice the tradition of women proposing to men for various reasons. One of them is because men were believed to be the backbone of the family to earn a living. If this tradition was related to the hadith in the book of Sunan al-Dārimī index number 2216 and its meaning was reconstructed using the Mubādalah theory, it can be justified. One of the strong arguments is because the Prophet SAW. was once proposed by a woman named Siti Khadijah.